It's hard being a partner to someone with cancer š„ŗ
Sid Mahoun
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34 months ago at 12:37 PMAugust 05, 2022 at 12:37 PM
I hope no one takes this as me being selfish but being the partner of someone suffering with this type of cancer is so lonely.
It's like your partner is here but not. I feel like I haven't seen my partner since February. I understand the need for her to listen to what her body needs and if that is sleep, I genuinely don't mind but I can't help but curse the fact that I sit on my own most of the day. I don't share mundane stuff with anyone anymore.
I feel like all I do is wait of the odd hour my partner is awake and hope there's a snippet of our old life in that hour but there isn't. That odd hour is usually filled with the peripheral symptoms this shitty cancer expels. I know it's no picnic for those facing down the cancer but it can be torture sat on the sidelines watching it too.
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Last activity by Darrell McKinnon,Ā
Don't ever be afraid to ask for the same help. Help yourself so you can help someone else is such a true statement. There is nothing selfish about it because once you feel supported you can be there for them :)
0 RepliesI get this because everything in your life changes and you just want some normalcy .my husband had a complete larynectomy and now sometimes cause he can't talk he doesn't even acknowledge what I am saying. I have ask did you hear me and then he gets mad. He also gets mad cause I can't read his lips. So we both get frustrated. I think sometimes people around forget that we are fighting this battle together and it is painful for us too
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I so understand. I actually wrote a poem about it a few weeks backā¦titled it Unseen. Itās tough being the caregiver. I sometimes feel guilty that I feel frustrated and angry with the situation. But we all have to give ourselves some grace here.
0 RepliesCouldnāt relate moreā¦ the only words that occur to me are stay strong we are together in this struggle and we will see this through. It canāt be bad forever! ā¤ļø
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As a patient, not the partner watchingā¦ I can say that she most likely doesnāt want you to just sit n wait. It adds a huge amount of guilt to the situation. Plus your being up and moving about and going and doing might dry her up?
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